Once you hear that word…Cancer…it shifts something in you. It doesn’t compare, at all, but the only thing I can compare it to is when I found out I was pregnant. From the second I saw the two pink lines, everything in my world shifted. Priorities change. Things become more clear in your mind.
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I have found myself walking a thin line between trying to be the optimistic, supportive cheerleader wife and trying to be grounded in reality and really think about what a cancer diagnosis means. The thing about Sean is he has been the eternal optimist and he KNOWS he will beat cancer, his strength through the first weeks and months of all this has been truly incredible. I felt like I was falling apart constantly, the littlest thing would set me off on a crying jag. Yet, at the same time, I believe he will beat this and I know he will be okay.

It’s a hard space to be in mentally, feeling emotionally fragile all the time but trying to keep the positive thoughts at the forefront. I struggle with anxiety and depression in normal day to day life, then you throw something life altering like cancer into the mix and there’s an even bigger chance of falling into a depression because things just seem so hopeless and you feel helpless. I’m someone who really likes to be in control, and fix things…I can’t fix this. I have zero control over any of this and I HATE that.

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Some things that I’ve found to help me combat all these scary feelings and thoughts are doing things that make us feel like things are still normal. Normalcy is something you take for granted until you don’t have it anymore.

Back in May of 2017, we went from a SAD *Standard American Diet to a WFPB *whole food plant based diet, basically cutting refined, processed crap and increasing the whole foods, eating plant based. It takes a little getting used to and a little more preparation, but it’s not as hard as it seemed at one time. Anyway, we had been doing great, then cancer happened and life became about getting to and from doctor appts and my meal planning and cooking sort of flew out the window, take out was happening way too often and we’d fallen back into the SAD because it’s easy. Now that we feel like we’ve got a better handle on the cancer stuff, we are back to WFPB, and have found an organic farm near our house that has a CSA box (Community Supported Agriculture) program, so weekly we go out to the farm and pick up our fresh grown, organic produce and my kids get to visit the goats and donkey’s and chickens. It’s something normal that we all enjoy.

We’ve found that all four of us really enjoy thrifting! We have a lot of great thrift stores all around us and in the past couple of months, we’ve been to all of them! We’ve found some awesome deals and gotten some really cool stuff. There are times we go and don’t buy anything, just have fun looking at all the ‘treasures’ and other times, we will each find something to buy. The important part is we are all together, enjoying ourselves and having fun.

Basically, we are just trying to live. Live life to the fullest, create memories wherever we can, enjoy being together even if it’s just the mundane stuff like grocery shopping.

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Fresh laundry. Cookies baking in the oven. A baby straight out of the bath. What do these things all have in common? The scent. Scent can bring back memories, right? Like you smell a certain perfume and it reminds you of your grandma. Or, as any mom can tell you, the scent of her children will bring her back to every memory of that child; from the first sniff of their newborn head to when they are grown. Scent is a very powerful sense!


You know those houses you walk into and it just smells fresh? Like laundry? I love that smell. Like seriously, LOVE that smell. It can be hard sometimes to keep things smelling fresh when there are diaper pails and laundry piling up. One of the things I’ve found that really helps me to keep it smelling good is to use Suavitel® Fragrance Pearls™ in my laundry. The Suavitel® Fragrance Pearls™ in the laundry help to keep clothes smelling fresh and clean longer, they are in-wash scent boosters and have 5x’s longer lasting fragrance. The Suavitel® Fragrance Pearls™ come in two scents: Field Flowers and Lavender. I personally like the Field Flowers scent as my go to for my house and laundry, smells soooo good! I use Suavitel® liquid fabric softener with the Suavitel® Fragrance Pearls™ to maximize the freshness in the laundry. I get mine at Walmart in the laundry aisle and bonus, it’s super affordable for those of us on a single income budget. Also, there are Suavitel® Fragrance Pearls™ samples on select Suavitel® liquid fabric conditioners in store in case you want to try it before you buy it.


One of my most favorite memories of my gramma is baking cookies during the holidays. She would plan out this big weekend of baking with 6-10 different varieties of cookies from chocolate chip to snickerdoodle and peanut butter to pinwheels. She even made those Mexican wedding cookies some years. My gramma had quite the collection of cookie cutters and presses and all sorts of fun stuff that only came out during those marathon baking sessions at the beginning of December. She has been gone now for 5 years and while I still try to carry on this tradition, it’s not the same…but whenever I smell cookies baking, she is the person I think of first and those times I would help her bake.


The other day, my husband caught a whiff of a perfume that reminded him of his mom who passed away 6 years ago from cancer. It brought him right back to all the wonderful memories of his mom, how amazing and powerful is it that a scent can transport you, sometimes as far back as childhood just by catching the slightest hint of it.

My husband is an aftershave collector, he has one that his grandfather used to wear and every time he opens that bottle, all those memories of growing up on his grandpa’s farm come flooding back to him.


I really feel like having my home smelling fresh makes my friends and family feel welcome. That’s one of my biggest goals is to have people feel comfortable and at ease in my house. I also want people to have good memories of me and that when I’m gone, my friends and family might catch just a hint of something that smells like me and they will be reminded of how much I love them and what good memories we made together.