July Goals

Wow. No bs. No excuses guys. Blog hiatus game is strong! It was 6 months long and although it was completely unintentional, it was necessary. I’ve mentioned before that I suffer from anxiety and depression…I have since my late teens. I’ve managed it successfully without medication since my early 20’s (yeah, that’s about 20 years) but occasionally, it sneaks up on me and before I even know it’s happening I’m in it. That’s where I’ve been. I haven’t had a depression this deep and dark in YEARS and to be quite honest, I couldn’t stop this one. Usually I see the signs…I see it coming before it happens and I know how to prevent it from completely taking me over. This one…this one was so different. I know the exact moment, we were driving in the car and it was like a switch was flipped. Literally one second I was totally good and the very next second, I was gone. It was weeks before I even cared enough to acknowledge it. Depression is an ugly beast. As I have slowly come out of it and gotten back to me, I have started to find myself being drawn back into the things I love and that’s why I’m back here once again.

I thought since it’s the beginning of another new month, I’d jump right in with a welcome to July and share some of my goals for the month

Choose Happy

This one is super important to me right now. I know that happiness is a choice more than anything else. You can choose to be bitter and angry or you can choose to find happiness in the little things and joy in the moments of chaos. As a stay at home mama, there’s a lot more moments of chaos than I’d care to admit, I don’t always have everything all under control…my kids do run the house sometimes. Even in those moments when I feel like it’s all going to hell in a hand basket, there’s a moment of hilarity that I can find my happy and try to salvage a little bit of my sanity. Teenager and Threenager ain’t no joke y’all.

Do More Yoga

I find so much peace and calm in just taking 10 minutes to get some yoga in each day. I feel centered and strong. I am by no means an expert in yoga and I’m not even super great at it, but you know what’s awesome about yoga? You don’t have to be to benefit from it. Just start where you’re at! Start with one simple pose and build on that. There are a lot of great YouTube videos on yoga as well as a few different apps for like yoga daily with new poses to try. I highly recommend looking into yoga if you haven’t yet.

Budget Wisely

This one is a toughy for me. I am not a saver or budgeter by nature. I’m totally a spender, a shopper, an impulse buyer with very little buyers remorse…ever. lol I’m trying to get better at this and so it’s one of my goals for this month. To be better at setting and sticking to a budget. I’m not looking to get all crazy about it and go super strict at this point. Like, you people who do those ‘no buys’…I am sorry to say but I think y’all are nuts! haha

Take More Pictures

This one is pretty self explanatory I think, but I’ll elaborate. As moms, we are usually the ones taking lots of random little pics of our kids…the funny faces or other shenanigans they get into. I want to be more intentional about the pictures. Capturing more moments of my kids snuggling each other, or playing with their dad, or at the pool with me. I don’t just want to take pics of the rest of my family, I want to be IN those pictures with them! I want them to have photographic evidence that mama was there in that moment with them!

Be A Better Friend

I am almost positive this goal was also on my last goal post in January. This is something I know I am constantly needing to work on. I get really wrapped up in what I’m going through and dealing with that I tend to live my life with blinders on…only seeing what’s in my immediate line of sight. I don’t want to be that friend that we all have…the one who only talks to us when they need something, or when they need to vent not caring about what’s happening in our lives as long as we are there for whatever is going on in their life. I want to be the kind of friend who is always there to ask how the kids made out at the doctor, or what insane thing your husband did to annoy you or make you laugh. I want to make my friends feel important and HEARD…valued and appreciated for all the ways my life is enriched by them being in it. So I am pretty sure this is just going to be an ongoing goal because I don’t ever see me being such an amazing friend that I can stop working on being a better friend to my people.

Hustle

I haven’t mentioned this yet but I recently became an independent consultant with Perfectly Posh, don’t worry I’m not gonna start posting tons of sales type stuff, but one of my goals is definitely to share Posh. When I say hustle, I don’t just mean with Posh either. I mean, all of my interests and businesses. It’s time to get back to doing the things I really love and that bring me happiness…blogging, YouTube, and all things beauty!

So, those are my goals for the month…what are yours? I’d love to hear some things you are going to be working on this month and maybe we can help encourage each other. xo

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January Goals

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Hello friends! Welcome back and Happy New Year! Can you believe it’s 2017? I remember Y2K like it was yesterday, and hello, that was 17 years ago…time flies!

Since I turned 40 a couple of months ago, I’ve found myself extremely motivated to make some changes in my life, to start taking on more challenges and pushing myself instead of just letting life happen to me. I want to be the leading lady in my own life and not the best friend…extra points if you can name that movie!

One of the things I’ve decided to do for this year is to start making small monthly goals to help me be the woman I want to be, so today I’m going to share my January Goals with you.

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January Goals

1. Read Two Books

I can’t tell you the last book I actually read. I used to read a lot but let it slip away the busier life got with two kids and a husband and keeping the house up…I would really love to get back to reading. I miss it. So, my goal for this month is to read two books that have been on my running list of books to read for months!

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The Fault in Our Stars – John Green

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Silver Girls by Elin Hilderbrand

2. Make SELF CARE a Priority

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I have a whole post coming on this one, but for now I’ll just say that I have so much clarity right now about how much self-care means and how damaging the lack thereof is to each of us. I’m making the choice to make myself a priority and that doesn’t make me selfish or self-centered, it makes me a woman who loves herself enough to know that taking care of herself means she will have more to give to others.

3. Invite one family over for dinner

Back in the day, I loved to have people over. Didn’t have to be a special occasion, I just loved hosting. I’d invite people over after church, or on a Tuesday. I loved to have friends come over to enjoy a meal and sit and chat over a glass of wine or a shot of tequila, while the kids ran around and played. I haven’t done this in a really really long time and I miss it so much. So my goal for January is to invite one family over for dinner or a bbq or something. It makes my heart happy to serve other people and make them feel loved.

4. Test four new meals to add to our monthly menu rotation

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Ha! This makes me laugh

In all seriousness though, I don’t know about you, but my family gets in a food rut really easily. We eat the same meals week after week because they are easy and we get into a pattern because they take no effort. Then we start getting really bored with meals because we’ve been eating the same things so much, so then we start eating out and spending money we don’t need to spend on eating out. So, I’m going to start testing out one new recipe a week to add to our rotation to give a little variety from the same old stuff! I’d love to know your favorite recipes so I can give them a try!

5. Continue my 30 day challenges – no soda, plank a day, and no junk food

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I’ve been kinda stealthy about this one…I wanted to have a couple of successes under my belt before I talked about them. Back in November, my mom had challenged me and my daughter to a no-soda for 30 days challenge. This was a big one because I was drinking so much Pepsi, y’all. Like an unGodly amount of Pepsi. So, we took the challenge and I’m proud to say not a single drop of soda has crossed my lips since November 12th and I plan to keep it that way. When I was about 25 days into that challenge I was thinking about what the next 30 day challenge should be and decided to do a fitness related challenge next. I found the Plank – A – Day challenge and decided that was it. Basically you start with 20 second planks and work your way up each day until at the end of the 30 days you are holding a 5 minute plank. Now, before anyone makes any comments about holding a plank for longer than 3 minutes has no benefit, once we reached that 3 minute plank we started to change up the position. We start in a regular plank and work into a side plank and do other things like that during the 5 minute time frame. It’s amazing how even a 20 second plank can make you feel muscles you had long forgotten ;). Once that one was over, we moved onto a combo 30 day challenge that incorporates the previous challenges of no soda, plank 30 seconds in the am and 1 minute in the pm, adding in drinking 1 gallon of water a day, and 25 squats every time you go to the bathroom. So far, so good but I’ll let you know how we do when it’s over!

6. Be a better friend, check on people when they cross my mind

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We’ve all been there, we get busy with our lives and stop making an effort to check in with our friends. Or maybe we haven’t all been there and it’s just me…either way, one of my goals not just for this month but for every month this year, is to be a better friend. To take time and call or text or meet up for coffee with friends, to be genuinely interested in their lives, in the good times and the times they may be struggling.

I would love for you guys to share some of your goals with me and come back and check in with me to see how I’m doing with my own goals!