Bikini Bodies

Bear with me guys, this might get a little rambly and off path a little, but I’ve been thinking a lot lately about weight. Not necessarily weight…more like (mainly) women’s unhealthy obsession with weight. But I don’t even really think weight is the issue…it’s more what we look like, how big or small we are…why is there such an emphasis on our size? Why is this a thing? Like at what point did women start deciding that their value comes from how they look on the outside instead of the content of their character?

“If you’re always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be.” – Maya Angelou

I don’t think I fit the societal norms here, to be honest. I am big, plus size, overweight, obese, morbidly obese, fat, whatever term you use for describing my size…however, I have NEVER seen myself as big as I actually am. I am confident in my body. Is it harder to do some things physically because of my size, I’m sure it is, but I wouldn’t know because I’ve never been the super tiny girl. I’ve always ‘had some meat on my bones’. Was it harder when I was dating, to be bigger than other girls my age? Nope, I never had trouble getting asked out or getting male attention. Do I have low self-esteem or self confidence because of my size? No, not really. I don’t find my self-worth in my dress size…sorry, not sorry that I don’t see myself as less than because I don’t fit what society has deemed as attractive and worthy all because the scale is a higher number than you are comfortable seeing.

Is this to say that I don’t place value on taking care of myself or eating healthy and moving? Heck no! What I am saying is that I don’t think it’s healthy for one to be so consumed with eating healthy and exercising for the sole purpose of losing weight as opposed to eating healthy and exercising because it’s good for you, no matter your size or the number on the scale. I’m pretty healthy, I have no medical issues that are typically attributed to being overweight (high bp, diabetes, circulation issues, high cholesterol) but people don’t see our medical records when they look at us, do they? They just look at me and see how big I am and automatically assume I must consume all the unhealthiest of foods and do nothing but sit on my butt.

weight does not determine worth

As I’ve scrolled through each of my social media accounts lately, it has struck me that even the most ‘healthy’ and fit, the thinnest people I know still aren’t happy with their bodies. Why? Who is telling you that you aren’t good enough? Why are you letting them? This isn’t even about body positivity to me right now. I do want every body to feel good about themselves, but when I think about it, I want everyone to feel good about themselves because they are happy in their life and relationships and career. I am definitely not trying to knock people who are proud of themselves for being the healthiest, most fit, strongest they have ever been because they are taking the time to work and push to accomplish things physically to test themselves. I think that is amazing and awesome! I just worry about the women who are out there killing themselves to attain a smaller size or smaller number on the scale just because they think that will make them happy or make other people happy.

“Work out because you love your body, not because you hate it” – Katie Goulet

I have many friends who have expressed feelings of not being confident to even wear a swimsuit, let a lone a bikini, because they have a belly, or thick thighs, or are just bigger than what society has told them is the appropriate size to be right now. Each time, the thing that comes to mind is how to get a bikini body….have a body, put a bikini on it, now you have a bikini body. I recently took this to heart and purchased a bikini. Not a tankini like has been my go to for the last 10ish years…but an actual bikini. And I love it. I feel confident in it. It makes me happy to wear it. And I hope that when my daughter sees me in it, she sees that she too can wear whatever makes her feel confident and beautiful and doesn’t let other peoples opinions get into her head and ruin her self image.

For a really long time, I followed the crowd – must lose weight so I can be more acceptable to everyone around me, must hide my body because no one wants to see a plus size woman in anything that shows any skin, must perpetuate the cycle of self hate because that’s what society tells women is normal behavior…I thought I was so fat, I thought I was unattractive, I thought I was unhealthy, I thought my value was tied into the number on the scale. In all of these old pictures of me, I thought I was so huge compared to my friends…what the hell was I on?! Looking at them now, I see a beautiful woman who was healthy and was the same size as all of her friends! All those years I spent hating myself, my body, because why?…I don’t even know at this point.

Do I say all of this to say that I never have moments of weakness now when I see a picture of myself and think, wow am I really that big? No, I totally have those moments but they don’t define me. The number on the scale doesn’t define me. I don’t have a single desire to lose weight so that people will find me easier to look at, or more worthy of their attention. I have a desire to be healthy and to work on loving all of myself, flaws and imperfections included. I’m not willing to hide for anyone anymore. My wish for every woman I know, is that she would see herself and love herself, as is. Stop the self hate, start loving yourself so we can stop the cycle of teaching our children to hate themselves if they don’t fit whatever society has deemed acceptable. <3

Holiday Lookbook – Thrifted Outfits

Hello my beauties! I can’t believe it, Christmas is this weekend! This year has been a hell of a year, am I right?! All of the tragedies and the celebrities who’ve passed…it’s just been on hit after another all year and I for one am looking forward to 2017 being better for everyone.

So I know I’ve shared very few fashion posts on this here blog, but I’m trying to get out of my comfort zone and do things that scare me, so in that vein, I’m sharing a fashion post today! I recently did a YouTube collab with a few other ladies from the YouTube Mommy MeetUp group on Facebook, it was a Holiday Look Book, 3 thrifted *or partly thrifted outfits. So, I’m sharing the outfits I pulled together with items I found at a few of my local Goodwill stores.

Outfit number one

Holiday Look Book - Thrifted Edition Look One alittledashofdiva.com

Look One – Shirt and Jeans from Goodwill

Outfit number two

Holiday Look Book - Thrifted Edition Look Two alittledashofdiva.com

Holiday Look Book – Thrifted Edition, Look Two Top and Leggings from Goodwill

Outfit number three

Holiday Look Book - Thrifted Edition Look Three alittledashofdiva.com

Holiday Look Book – Thrifted Edition Look Three jeans and top from Goodwill alittledashofdiva.com

And just cuz I feel like sharing, here is the actual look book I did on YouTube πŸ˜‰ I hope y’all like it!

Lane Bryant NFL Capsule Collection

So a couple of weeks ago, I was invited to the launch of the NFL Capsule Collection at Lane Bryant. It was just before the Super Bowl so they had decor in the Seahawks and Patriots colors along with football shaped cookies, cupcakes with each teams colors and chocolate dipped pretzels.

They had a selection of these new shirts ranging from the NFL Logo to individual team shirts and a special Super Bowl t-shirt as well. If you made a purchase and were one of the first 50 people you got a swag back with one of the NFL logo shirts and a few other fun little items.

I decided to film myself getting ready for the event and then took a few pics while I was there to show y’all some of the highlights of the event.

I really loved being invited to this event and can’t wait for future fashion events to go to!

What would be your dream fashion event to go to?

Date Night (WIW)

Hello lovelies!  It’s Tuesday, woohoo!  I always like Tuesday, mainly because it’s not Monday and that means we are closer to Friday so YAY!

I told you in a recent post about how I wish I had more cute clothes to make What I Wore posts from and guess what?!  I’m slowly but surely adding more cute, fun clothes to my wardrobe.  Yay!  
To go along with my new wardrobe, Hubby and I have actually been able to go on a few date nights this month, which is really a nice change of pace.  Up til recently we hadn’t been on a date in months.  Like, I really don’t remember the last date night we had before our Anniversary dinner a few weeks ago.

My BFF-Harmony’s husband had decided to plan a double date night for all of us on Saturday night so after spending some time at the pool that afternoon, in which I got a tad pink (damn me and my Irish skin!).  Yes, even if I wear sunscreen this is what happens.  Anyhoo…
After taking my sweet time showering and getting ready I had to decide what to wear that was going to be comfortable but not too casual and on the other hand, not too dressy.  This is what I came up with…
Comfy capri’s rolled up at the bottom, black wedge heels, sparkly tank and a sparkly arm party! Woot woot!
I was really comfortable all night and the best part is I felt great.  I was confident and sassy and felt like the me that has been missing for a while.  It’s nice to find that girl again πŸ˜‰  
Now, here’s hoping I get another date night sooner rather than later!

Eyebrows ARE Important!

Have you ever thought about just how important eyebrows are? lol I know, funny question, right? But seriously, think about it.

See, eyebrows are seriously important!

Up til about 2 years ago, I didn’t really pay much attention to filling in my brows when I did my makeup. And now, I think I look unfinished if I don’t fill them in. Here’s an example…

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In the first picture, only one of my brows is filled in..In the second pic they are both done. To me, it makes a HUGE difference in making my eyes really pop.

Just something to think about if you are wanting to make your eyes pop, and really it takes so little time and effort to actually fill them in. Try it next time you are doing your makeup and see if it makes a difference for you!

Makeup Monday

Shoe Whore

Hello, my name is Chrissy and I am a shoe whore. *Hi Chrissy* (that’s all of you saying hi btw.) lol

They say admitting it is the first step, right? Well, I don’t think there is any hope for a cure for my shoe whoredness (yes, I totally just made that word up). I love shoes and they *sometimes* love me back. I mean, there are some shoes that I adore but I can’t wear or else I would risk blisters, bunions and never walking again if I were to wear them.

Then, oh then there are the shoes that love me back and I can wear without fear of being crippled for the next several days while the blisters and sores heal.

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See, I went shoe shopping with hubby over the weekend. He needed new shoes for work and Hannah needed new tennis shoes too. So we spent an inordinate amount of time in DSW perusing the shoes. Of course, I couldn’t leave without at least looking at shoes for me even if I wasn’t there to get any for me.

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I’m not greedy, I mostly look in the clearance racks at DSW. You can find some smokin’ deals there if you have time to look. They have the normal advertised 30%-70% off tags that everyone knows about, but then if you have an in you know about the yellow tags. The 80% off tags! Oh how I love those 80% off tags!

I was just showing Hubby the 3 pairs I had tried on when he noticed a really cute pair that I had passed over. He asked me to try them on and when I did I loved them.

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forgive the horribly blurry pic, I snapped this from my iphone while I was trying to stand and model πŸ˜‰

The cherry on top of that delicious sundae was that they had that gorgeous yellow tag. An original price of $49 marked down to $39 with an additional 80% off that 39 bucks.

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Hello, now I am not great at math but I know that that is a hell of a deal. Hubby said to get them if I wanted them. Me not being one to look a gift horse in the mouth, accepted before he could change his mind!

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Then he spotted another pair and they were also 80% off. He wanted me to try them on again and since I was in such an obliging mood I did. When he saw them he said, and I quote, ‘you are getting those’. lol

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And so, this is the story of how my husband is an enabler in my shoe whoredness and how I got 2 smokin’ hot pair of heels for less than 20 bucks! Woot!

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A Fashion Post…wait, what?!

Happy Weekend Lovelies! I, for one am so happy to have the weekend here. No getting up early to rush off to get kids to school and spend all day cleaning and doing chores. I get to relax and lounge around the house all day tomorrow at least. Woot! It’s my un-anniversary as we like to call it. We got married on Leap Day so we don’t technically have an anniversary this year, but we are celebrating 9 years of marriage anyway!

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I have become really obsessed with fashion and fashion bloggers lately. I will sit and look through tons of blogs looking at all the pretty clothes and accessories and think to myself, dang I wish I had some cute clothes that would be worthy of a fashion post! Except, I am the typical SAHM with a wardrobe full of jeans, capris, tanks and tee’s. Heels? Heck no, give me some flip flops please!

And then, wonder of wonders, eShakti contacted me to review a piece of clothing from their website. AAHHH! I was so excited I could hardly contain myself.

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I poured over the section of the website they told me I could choose an item from and had Hubby help me take all my measurements so that my dress I chose would be completely customized to my body. Now, I don’t know if smaller women have this issue, but for me, as a plus size woman I have the hardest time finding clothes that fit me right everywhere. Either they fit in the length and are too tight in the waist or they fit perfect in the waist and are 4 inches too long. Don’t even get me started on dresses because dresses that are made for plus size women are always cut like we all have ginormous boobs and hello, that is not the case. I am not saying my boobs are small, but they are not THAT big! So the dresses I like I can’t wear unless I get everything tailored and that is just expensive. Anyhoo…after taking my measurements I sent off my dress selection and waited for it to arrive!

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I was so surprised to find it in my mailbox just one week after placing my order – and that was with being fully customized, not just simply pick a size and ship it. I was ecstatic! I rushed in the house and tore the package open and was absolutely IN LOVE the second I held the dress.

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This dress is perfect. Seriously. It looks great, it feels great, it FITS great. I couldn’t be more pleased with the quality of the dress and the fact that I was able to customize it to fit my body. I love that eShakti doesn’t just cater to one type of woman (i.e they carry clothing for small, petite women up through plus size women).

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In My Dreams

Do you ever think about what you would wear if you were given the opportunity to attend a huge event like the Oscars? Anyone? No, just me? Ok then!

Well, I decided I wanted to put together a dream outfit of what I would wear if I were going to the Oscars tonight. Of course, in reality I will just be snuggled up in my jammies watching on TV, probably eating a donut or something.

I searched Polyvore.com for the perfect ensemble and this, my friends is what I would wear…

Oscars

Stiletto high heel shoes
$63 – spylovebuy.com

Forever new
$41 – forevernew.com.au

The dress – I love. The shoes – I DIE!

So, tell me (or better yet, show me!) what would you wear if you were going to the Oscars?!

Happy New Year 2013

I am spending my New Years Eve in my bed, all comfy in my jammies with my hair up in a bun. Yep, livin’ it up here! Hubby is working in the ER and my daughter and I are stuck at home. We watched the ball drop at 10 on the news and then I sent her to bed. She was tired and mama needed some quiet! lol

Anyhoo, since I have this quiet time to myself now I thought I’d waste some time on Polyvore! Woot!

I am envisioning this outfit for a Girl’s Night Out – this is something I would LOVE to wear for a night out and I’m not talking to the grocery store ladies! I very rarely get a night out to go to a bar or dancing or hell even to dinner with girlfriends, but if I did this is the outfit I would rock.

Girls Night Out

Stay safe lovelies! I wish you all health, wealth and happiness in abundance in the New Year.

Hair Makeovers

Happy Saturday lovelies!

I hope everyone is having a fantastic weekend so far, do y’all have big plans for Easter tomorrow? We are just doing a low-key Easter. Egg hunt, brunch and visiting with my parents. Unfortunately my hubby has to work, but such is life when you are in emergency medical services.

So remember a week or so ago when I posted that I was thinking about getting a new hairdo? Well, I finally did it! Yesterday I decided I’d had enough. It is getting warm here and its only going to get worse which means instead of wearing my hair down and doing something pretty with it, it will be time to wear it up in buns and ponies all summer and that’s not cute day after day. I decided to chop it all off and so far, I’m loving it!

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After

I had her put in a couple of long layers at the bottom to give me some body. I haven’t played with it too much yet but I think its going to be really good for summertime.

When I mentioned to hubby that I was cutting my hair yesterday my daughter decided she wanted her hair cut too. I’m not one of those moms who decides how her child will wear her hair now that she’s old enough she can make the decision (within reason of course). So she said she wanted her hair in a stacked bob so I said ok. First off, I love this cut on her, she has had it before and its flippin adorable on her.

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After

We are both loving the new hair so far…but I know myself enough to know that it won’t last and I will probably start complaining that I want it long again before too long! haha

Have a great weekend and a very Happy Easter! xoxo